Self-Help Central: I’m a Positive Person, and I Love Myself

Who’s ready for some self-help?

Who isn’t ready for some self-help these days, what with those crushing winter holidays rolling around and their constant reminders of obligations, commercialism, and opportunities to compare ourselves to each other?

Parties, gifts, gadgets, big meals, sales, stuff, stuff, stuff.


I’m, like, mad at myself for even talking about the holidays, because I’m already so sick of them.

The Mantra

December tends to be a particularly tough time for me, but this year I’ve made an important decision, one even more important than my choice to generally opt out of the material aspect of the season. I’ve decided to repeat a mantra and keep it at the forefront of my brain:

I’m a positive person, and I love myself.

Self-Help for the Resistant

Are you groaning? Please don’t groan. Or, hey, groan away. I’m not the boss of you.

But maybe I know what you’re thinking. This little mantra sounds a lot like it belongs in an episode of SNL. It should be displayed in pink Comic Sans font on a kitten poster.

If you need to go around and write affirmations and stick them to mirrors, doesn’t that mean you’re a fragile soul, with no backbone, no toughness—too weak for this world?

We’re all just supposed to take what the world throws at us and smile and spread joy and heal ourselves, effortlessly, because we’re the captains of our own ship, right? The implication is there: Be happy, but don’t struggle with it. Just do it.

No. I’m saying no to that.

It’s taken me a long time to get here, but I’m almost there. I’m growing.

I might recoil a little when I tell myself that I’m a positive person and I love myself, but I squash that with my own damn stubbornness.

I don’t care if I need extra sticky notes and a bunch of gosh darn it, people like me right now.

And you shouldn’t care, either.

Plenty of smart people have lots of opinions about the state of society and violence and inequality, and I don’t intend to try to be one of them right now, but I will say that there is way too much negative shit out there, and I want to be a positive person, and I want the messages I hear every day, the internal ones, to bring goodness and light to my psyche.

The world and the people in it seem to create too many concrete and covert messages that make us doubt ourselves. I’m not adding to that pile.

Because I’m a positive person, and I love myself.

The Mantra in Action

I don’t think I can take much more stress or grief this year. I am at my limit, even while my limit has increased steadily to beyond ridiculous.

I’m a positive person, and I love myself.

I shouldn’t be writing this post because it sounds like whining, and nobody likes a whiner.

I’m a positive person, and I love myself.

I shouldn’t be writing this post because I have way too many other posts unfinished, and I’ll never get anywhere as a writer if I don’t start focusing on something bigger.

I’m a positive person, and I love myself.

Your turn.

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2 Responses to “Self-Help Central: I’m a Positive Person, and I Love Myself”

  1. Great up talk. 🙂


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